How2: Show Yourself Love. Our Self Care Tips

I think we can all agree that the world is in the craziest state our generation has ever seen, right? The start of corona virus, being told that summer is basically cancelled and now this societal change and acknowledgement of underlying racism towards black people which has been long overdue. I can’t begin to try and explain to you how many times I have been upset, disappointed, grateful but also angry because of everything going on at the moment. It has made me realise how important my mental health really is.

The stigma around mental health has never sat well with me. We need to realise that mental health is not a bad thing, it is key when understanding the importance of our own happiness. Whether this is talking to a professional about things bothering you or taking time do something that makes you feel relaxed. Now is the best time to do this. With everything going on at the moment, you must make sure you’re still your own priority. You can make your difference and still take time for yourself. Use this time to figure out what you are most looking forward to getting back, and the things you will cut out because they do not bring you anything but wasted energy.

I can’t even front and say I have always placed such an importance on my own mental health, I am still a newbie and finding my own way. But since I found myself trapped at home, educating myself as to how the world is so messed up and how I can use my privilege to do something, I am slowly taking time to myself to figure out what makes me happy and brings me peace (Funny, because those that remember my teenage motto was “Spread The Peace”, I even got it printed on my bedroom wall).

For example, I was not one of those people that would exercise, I got out of participating in PE lessons for four years. However despite the teenage hatred for exercise, I have found it to be one of the best ways to let out frustrations and destress. Whether it’s following a YouTube video, an intense workout in the gym, or a walk around your local area, the difference you feel is worth the sweat. My top 3 walks are a walk along the South Bank, around any of the larger parks in London (Hyde & Greenwich being my favourite) and along the Cutty Sark riverside. All three allow you to take in London and all it’s beauty. I’ve heard boxing is a great way to release anger and stress as well – Amazon sell boxing gloves and pads at a decent price if this is something you are interested in. You could never have gotten me to exercise on a “normal” day, but this extra time at home has given me no choice but to start working those glutes! (Also, who doesn’t want to be looking cute all year round, even if nobody can see).

I am also giving myself time to really do things that bring me peace. I LOVE to read. Switching off and putting all of my attention into a book is the best thing for me. I learn something new and forget about everything that was making me feel a type of way. Given the current global situation with ignorance coming to light, I truly believe reading provides us with the knowledge of attempting to understand why the world is such a messed up place. These past few months I have read and learnt SO much, a real book worm. The delivery drivers must hate me because I am always receiving new books (SHOUTOUT TO ALL DELIVERY DRIVERS, RETAIL STAFF, TEACHERS, THE NHS AND EVERY OTHER KEYWORKER!)

Two books that I have purchased that have been great for self-care are both of Humble-The-Poet’s books – Unlearn & Things No One Else Can Teach Us. I couldn’t have read these at a better time than now when I am placing such a great focus on myself. Humble describes how his life experiences have allowed him to change his outlook and how we can do the same in order for us to flourish. I can’t do the books justice, just buy them. One of my closest friends also bought me “Good Vibes, Good Life” by Vex King which I have heard some amazing reviews about. Stay tuned for this feature in the Chlo’s Library series.

Another way to destress is through keeping a journal. Part of the reason this blog even exists is to vent and get things off of my chest. You don’t realise how much relief you feel after getting things out. Keeping a journal gives you time to think and process your emotions, which in turn relaxes and calms your mind. This eliminates the fear factor of having to talk to somebody if you are not ready to.

However, if you are at the stage of being able to talk to someone about how you are feeling, do so. Keeping your thoughts to yourself can be overwhelming, talking to somebody relieves you of this built up pressure. I found after talking about my stresses I felt a whole lot better, I didn’t even realise how much I needed it. If you aren’t yet ready to talk to somebody that you know personally, there are a range of helplines that can offer you support – Anxiety UK, SANE and The Samaritans are a few. Our DMs and email are always open if you want to talk to one of us.

If you don’t want to write your thoughts and feelings down, you can still let yourself know how important you are. Repeating these positive affirmations to yourself everyday will help you overcome those negative thoughts you are feeling and help you realise how important you are. SPEAK THINGS INTO EXISTENCE!

-        You will achieve every single one of your goals!

-        You are unique!

-        You deserve the best!

-        You can do this!

Last but not least, probably the most important thing, TREAT YOURSELF TO A DAY OFF. Everybody deserves a day to switch off from the world. Whether this is booking yourself in for that expensive facial, painting your nails or putting your favourite face mask and binging on Netflix. It is all a must. So take that time to catch up on your Netflix list, your favourite Real Housewives, listen to that podcast and chill.

Remember these uncertain times won’t last forever, it is just another hurdle for society to overcome. Prioritise yourself and your emotions, plan for the future - I know I will be planning on hot girl summer 2021, and chill. Take time to relax as much as you can and do what truly makes you happy, whilst still making your change in the world.

“Sometimes self care is exercise and eating right. Sometimes it’s spending time with loved ones or taking a nap. And sometimes it’s watching an entire season of television in one weekend while you lounge around in your pyjamas. Whatever soothes your soul”  - Nanea Hoffman